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How to deal with having no friends because they all keep moving away

I’m writing this post in honor of my cousin, who is one of my very best friends. She is leaving for Costa Rica indefinitely in six days. This is also for all of my other friends who have gone away to better places (on Earth).

And I’m just poking fun with the title. It got you to read this far, so you might as well hang in here.

In all seriousness, this event will result in the fact that three people who are seriously close in my heart are, in physical space, super far away. Those three people are amazing. Those are my “come over and just watch tv” people. Those are my “I want to see you succeed” people. Those are my “tell anything and I know they won’t judge me” people. And I’m selfish, because I want to keep them, you know, in case I need them.

Anyways, there are a few things I have found to work for me in the event that you are seriously missing someone.

  • Write to them. Letters, emails, short note via seagull, anything. Just find a way to keep that connection. Real friendship knows no distance, and no matter how far apart you are.
  • Still do the things you enjoyed together. Don’t drop that activity or favorite coffee shop because they aren’t around. Do that thing and remember the good times, and tell them all about it in your next email.
  • Make new friends. I did not say “forget about your old friends”. I simply said make new ones. You don’t have to be alone. You are probably pretty awesome, so you should get out there and be awesome with other awesome people.
  • Visit them. Years ago I used to always encourage my friends to move away so that I would have a play to stay when I visited their city. It’s a great excuse to get away. And it’s quality time over quantity time.

I hope that these tips will help you in some way. I’m going to practice good self-care and keep these things in mind over the coming months.

I’m at the point where I know that space is just the thing that leaves us room to grow. I plan to use it as best I can. Even when I’m missing people.


4 thoughts on “How to deal with having no friends because they all keep moving away

  1. Well said. I love that you have found positives to this predicament. What about writing to the person in question, while drinking coffee in the place you previously visited together. You could write a brief story about the people opposite….anything goes. I’ve done this countless times and it is really quite funny.


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