Remember when you were a kid, all the dreams you had for yourself?
When I was younger I wanted to be a firefighter, and then I wanted to be a writer. Then I wanted to be an investigative journalist.
Eventually I decided that I just wanted to help people, but I wasn’t sure how yet.
Over the years, I went from believing that I could do anything, to feeling lost and unsure if I could choose a career at all.
The truth is, over time I began to believe that I wasn’t good enough. My anxiety made me afraid to take on new challenges. When I did manage to try new challenges and failed, my self-esteem took the hit. I told myself I was an average person leading an average life, and that’s what I became.
I would have rushes every now and then when I felt inspired to chase something bigger, but my automatic thinking would eventually take over and I would go back to saying to myself “I can’t”.
I separated myself mentally from the people who are successful, convincing myself that the only people who are truly successful were somehow born into wealth, found themselves in an incredibly lucky circumstance, or a sociopath who stepped on anyone they had to just to get to the top. But no, success wasn’t for me.
I thought of every excuse in the book as to why it could never happen to me.
Then one day, I woke up. I was having a talk with my trainer at the time about how he enjoys what he does every day. He asked what I would be if I could be anything, and I told him that my dream job was to be a Wellness Coach – “but I could never do that”, I added.
“Why not?” he asked me.
I fell silent. I knew I couldn’t spout off any bullshit excuses, because he wouldn’t have accepted them. And if he wouldn’t, why should I?
At this time I was struggling out of a majorly depressive phase. And I told myself that I was either going to live, or I was going to die. And I don’t mean physically, I mean spiritually. I needed to do something about the way I saw my life, or I knew I would be depressed and struggling forever.
I began working through my anxiety. I started encouraging myself more. I started taking on more challenges, and when I was successful my self-esteem got a little boost. When I was not successful, I got back up and tried again. I began saying “why not me?”. Why can’t I be the girl who gets healthy and fit? Why can’t I start my own business? Why can’t I have a career that I love? There is no good reason why any of my dreams can’t come true.
And it’s the same for you.
Step 1: Believe you are worthy. You deserve happiness. You really do! For some people that is so hard to hear. Why not you?
Step 2: Work for it. Don’t stop. WORK UNTIL YOU GET OR DO THE THING. Be persistent. The Universe accepts the path of least resistance; if you keep going in the same direction, eventually it is going to get out of your way.
Don’t give up on your dreams guys! Run towards them! Push all the negativity in your life into another stratosphere because life is too damn short to not be living the way you want to be.
I believe in you!