I haven’t been “out” in over a YEAR.

I ran into an old friend the other day. It was nice to run into him, and although I was in the midst of running errands we stopped for a second to catch up.

Reminiscing on what we had been up to lately, I recalled how low-key my life has been for the last year and mentioned that I haven’t been “out”(as in “out on the town”) in over a YEAR.

The last time I went out to a bar was for my big sister’s bachelorette party last summer. But prior to actually saying it out loud, it is not something I really thought of before. Is this normal for a 27 year old? I honestly don’t know – I’m not sure what everyone else is up to on the weekends these days. I can only relate to you guys my own experiences and my own personal reasons why I’ve made this decision, consciously and subconsciously.

First, I mean, obviously this is a health, wellness, and fitness blog because those are my passions in life. Don’t get me wrong, I am all about living a life of balance! But balance for me is not working my butt off and eating well six days out of the week so I can undo all that work in 1 night. I know myself, and I know if I’m up late partying all night I am not making it to the gym the next day. I’m just not! I’m gonna sit home eating pizza. And you know how I found this out? By fooling myself one too many times before! Yes, life experience has taught me a lot.

I am a truly ambitious and motivated person. I think about my goals every. single. day. Whenever I make a choice to do something, I go through an inner dialogue that helps me decide if that choice is good or bad for me down the road. And going out never really looks good. To be honest I just really want to be at the gym, eating a good meal, and in bed by 11. Yes I’m that person.

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It’s strange how much shame is associated with that. I want to make it super clear that I don’t look down upon anyone for what the decide to do to enjoy their free time! But when I tell people I don’t go out, it is hard for others to understand.

There’s not a lot of room for alcohol in my life.

If you’ve been following my blog for a while, then you might be aware that my best friend is an alcoholic. This experience has completely changed my relationship with alcohol. I am damaged from it in a way, because I see what damage it can do, and it saddens me. If I thought that giving up alcohol for the rest of my life meant that she would also never drink again, I would have given it up a long time ago.

Spending quality time with my best friend used to mean a night on the town. That had to change. Now we spend time enjoying our lives and our health; we work out together, go for coffee, take walks, or just kick it and relax.

Same goes with my boyfriend; spending time together almost never involves alcohol, and has never meant going out. We have never been to a bar together. For where he is at in life, he is just completely uninterested in drinking in general. Because of this, I have a lot of respect for him. We are both ambitious and goal oriented, and we are similar in the activities we enjoy, so I guess we would just rather be lifting the bar then at the actual bar.

I guess to sum it all up, partying just isn’t conducive to my lifestyle anymore.

This doesn’t make me better or worse than anyone. But yes, I know it makes me different.

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I’m just simply doing other things.

Healthy things.

That all being said, I am not against drinking. But I am against drinking for the wrong reasons, and drinking for the sole purpose of drowning my sorrows. I believe that partying has it’s time and place. I am actually going to another bachelorette party in a month and I am excited to be there for the bride to be’s big night out! I can’t wait to cheers her on the special occasion. Not to be cliche but, there really is a time and a place for everything.

I still have a drink every once in a while, but you know what?

I don’t need it 🙂

 

 

 

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7 thoughts on “I haven’t been “out” in over a YEAR.

  1. I’m 29 and the same way! I’m just not a big party person, and never have been. In college, I would be the person to occasionally go out to the bars with my friends, but never drink. Haha! When I am training (in my case for competitive horse jumping), I do not “set” myself back with unhealthy habits. I would much rather have an ice cream over an alcoholic drink.

    1. I would agree with you! A treat for me is usually not alcohol. Going out with your friends being the sober one must have made for some interesting times!!

  2. I’m 28 and I agree with you 100%! My group of friends are all drinkers and it’s definitely something we all do when we’re together and I’m just sort of over it. What’s the point anymore? I would love to replace it with healthy things and I love this post for that reason. It is very inspiring so thank you for sharing your story!

  3. I feel the same, I’m actually starting to worry about the next 4 weeks where I have several ‘occasions’ planned that will call for drinking and late nights. It means I won’t be able to train but it will also mean I feel crap for couple days after each of these nights out. My only saving grace is I finish work Wednesday for the summer so can add in extra training sessions at other times!

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