If you’re stuck right now, and you feel like the cards are stacked up against you, this post is for you. I’m going to be sharing with you a huge secret to success – one major tip that’s going to help you get what you want. Listen up.
Yesterday was a long day at the end of a long week. As my partner and I are tossing back and forth dinner ideas, I simply had to level with him: “I don’t feel like cooking tonight. I’m so tired. If you want something for dinner, do you think you can make it?”
Guess what happened? He happily obliged.
I know this is a small example, but a huge weight was lifted due to one simple ingredient: asking. If I never would have asked, he probably never would have known that me making dinner wasn’t even on the table. He’s not a mind reader – I had to express my need by simply asking him to take on the responsibility.
Sure, he could have said no. And if he didn’t, I would have been fine – because I still wouldn’t have cooked anyways (hah!). Thereby putting myself in a win-win situation.
Simply asking for what it is that you want will give you a great advantage. Want a promotion? Ask. Want a lower credit card rate? Ask. Want your stylist to stop styling your mop like an 80’s county music artist? Sometimes, you’ve got to ask.
Being understood is the crucial ingredient here. If you aren’t clear, people don’t know what you want. However, if you are clear and concise about your needs, your needs can then be understood, and then met.
On a grander scale, this works for those bigger things you want too. The things we really feel risky asking for, so instead we curl up inside ourselves and bury the desire deep. For instance, financial freedom. Or landing your dream job. Or going on that once-in-a-lifetime trip.
You have to dare to ask the Universe. But: you have to ask in a clear, concise, and specific way.
The best way to do this? Write it down. Be as specific as possible, and don’t forget to include time constraints.
“I want to be credit card debt free in 12 months” instead of “I want to have more money”
“I want to buy my own home in two years” instead of “I want to get my own place”
“I want to go on vacation to Greece next summer for 3 weeks” instead of “I just want a break”
Only by asking and putting it out there can you expect to be understood.
This is a crucial step to take if you want to be able to get that thing that you want!
So please, today, take a moment for yourself to reflect, think about what it is that you want, and then simply start by asking for it. That can be to a coworker, family member, or by writing it down and sending it out to the Universe.
You got this. Go get it!